I was SO late to the Instagram party – now I’m on it, I absolutely love it, but mostly I love the filter that’s probably the best anti-ager I know. I used to have a camera that had a *beauty flash* button on it that threw extra light and pretty much erased every wrinkle known to man. I always used it for profile pics until one day someone I’d never met before said, “You don’t look anything like your picture.” I knew I didn’t and yet thought I could carry on getting away with it until in the cold light of day someone pointed out the absolutely bleedin’ obvious! So, the beauty button was no more. I thought maybe it’s better to be realistic. And then, along came Instagram and I can’t help myself when it comes to the filter!
But, I’ve got a job coming up with a brand that requires me to go make-up free. Completely no filter, make-up free. To be honest, I am absolutely dreading it. I’m one of the older beauty bloggers in a sea of very young and very pretty bloggers, so it’s a huge ask to strip down to the nude, so to speak. Not so long ago, I was just a beauty writer whose picture was never required – only words. Since then, I’ve conquered *the profile picture*, conquered You Tube and mastered the Instagram filter but I never thought I’d have to face myself no frills. I have to be honest and say I have begged for kind lighting (they’ve said no to Vaseline over the lense ;-)) but it’s preying on my mind to the point that, when a reader stopped me in the street the other day, I felt I must have been a terrible disappointment.
So, it’s not really a pity-party, it’s stone cold fear! On the one hand, I want to tackle it head on and not give a flying hoot what anyone thinks, but on the other, I’m a human not a robot! I’m not embarrassed or ashamed of how I look, but I’ve never been in the position of knowing that a pile of people will see me exactly as it is. I love make-up – it’s completely a way of life for me and I rarely go a day without it. The very least I will wear is a base, blush and gloss or tinted balm. But even stripping back those three elements is a whole different me. Make-up doesn’t cover wrinkles or signs of ageing really so I don’t care about that, but it gives colour and definition to a face that bare, has nowhere to hide, and I’m realising that what I like best is when I’m hidden. Eek. I’m trying to put my finger exactly on what it is that upsets me about it – not dark circles, not creases, not un-even tone – I’ve got all those things and I really don’t care – I think maybe it IS that I feel I look so lifeless and drained without make-up. More tired, less animated and, bottom line, far less acceptable to others.
What do you think? Would you style it out or bottle out?
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At this precise moment in time I’d bottle out. I suffer from severe acne and my skin is a mess. Until I can find a way to fix it I won’t go out without make up.
If I didn’t have any skin issues (its been over a.decade since that was the case!) I’d style it out. In times when I’ve had better skin I have gone without make up regularly.
Hi, I totally can relate to you. I just feel boring without makeup, I don’t have that bad dark circles or wrinkles, no spots but yet I don’t feel 100% me with a fresh face, it’s more like a matter of identity.
Of course I don’t wear a makeup at home if I’m not going out but still I don’t fancy the idea of being makeup free at work or in my everyday life and don’t really see why I should.
I just don’t understand this new Puritan British attitude towards makeup or hair dye, as if looking dowdy and letting yourself go was something worthwhile.
I’m Italian and for us looking after yourself and taking the time and effort for grooming is seen as something positive, rather than vain and negative as I see is being percieved by many people in the UK now. I totally miss this point, really.
I can’t imagine not wearing make-up on a regular basis!
You have nothing to worry about! You’re a beautiful, intelligent, confident and successful woman! And nothing is more attractive than confidence. You’ll do great 🙂
I would get a seriously good facial the night before, and then go for it! x
I frequently go makeup free and just did today. When I was in my 20’s I never went without makeup. I like a pop of blush and lipcolor, but I do use it now for myself and not to please others and I don’t feel I have to use it all the time. I don’t judge others for wearing makeup and it can be a big confidence booster. I’m 40 now for the last several years I often go without makeup and am more focused on taking good care of my skin. Maybe I like to go without makeup because I am more confident and comfortable with myself. Maybe it is because I am on a more spiritual path and don’t let my ego get the best of me anymore. Inner beauty shines from within. I have met some outwardly beautiful people that are so ugly inside that they seem to be ugly. If you accepted this job, just relax and go with it.
So you really think that not wearing make up makes you superior and people who do so are all shallow and superficial egotists?
I can tell about hundreds of people (men and women) who have never worn make up in their lives and yet they’re rather despicable individuals.
er, no.. I don’t think that at all.. I think I am rather nervous about going make-up free, that’s all! I don’t judge someone else on their make-up, only myself. x
Just curl your lashes Jane & you will be fine! x
You’d be doing us all a service, because while makeup is beautifying it isn’t beauty in itself.
I feel like there’s more to it than that- crinkles formed by laughter, or the glint behind a persons eyes and just plain character itself captured within a picture.
We all have parts of ourselves that cause insecurities (and of course makeup helps with confidence) but it takes bravery to say “this is who I am when the makeup is stripped away. I am a beautiful person despite my current lack of cosmetic beautification.”
I guess what I’m trying to say is as beauty industry hungry we are (it *is* a beauty blog, after all ;)) and as much confidence makeup and kind lighting/filters give us- we are more than that. We are more than peppy looking skin, more than a two dimensional demographic.
So thank you for taking this plunge and reminding us people are beautiful no matter what walk of life, regardless of evenness of skin tone… and above all to recognise this, when a small percentage might claim otherwise.
I think us older beauty bloggers should unite and own it with confidence. Perhaps some radiance skincare products to give you a lovely dewey look? I love makeup – but always have one makeup free day a week to let my skin breath. I nearly posted a pic when I blogged about this subject, but chickened out. I know – I will if you will – sisters unite! 😉
Love Vicky x
As another “somewhat older” blogger and longtime fan of your blog I will fully admit I would be terrified if someone requested me to go bare in public! I don’t wear a whole lot of makeup on a daily basis but the stuff I do wear I consider essential; concealer, mascara and blush to uh, make me look alive, non-zombie! At a younger age I would probably have felt insecure about my skin or not looking “cool” or attractive enough or whatnot but at this stage in life I will settle for “myself, only slightly enhanced”. People like to point out that age “ain’t nuthin but a number” but when you reach a certain age (and start to look it) it’s not so easily shrugged off anymore. Someone wrote the other day about the new spring trend of completely bare faces (with amazing brows, defined eyes and contour, obviosuly) but I almost cried; runway models are like 22 yrs old. At 22 EVERYONE looks pretty. Looking back at my younger self I feel not only is youth wasted on the young; the power of your own beauty is completely lost on the youngsters.
Thanks so much for lovely comments! I know I can style it out and it’s probably going to be very brief but *gulps*!
It’s a difficult one.. on one hand I’d love to think by doing this it is setting an example for women that being natural is beautiful. However I am the first to admit that whenever I’m not wearing make people constantly feel the need to check my temperature and ask if I’m feeling ok. I guess thats a world I’ve created for myself by wearing (reasonably) strong makeup looks everyday for the last 15 years.. Which leads me to believe that its not that I look terrible but that its very different for others to see me without red lips and mascara.
I guess it would depend on the job and the reasons the ‘brand?’ want you to go makeup free – is it to embrace your natural beauty or a before and after situation that makes the viewer feel that you HAVE to wear makeup to look half decent.
Jane, you are a respected and loved member of the beauty community and I’m sure whatever you decide will be fine. As KAYENNAT said above:
“You have nothing to worry about! You’re a beautiful, intelligent, confident and successful woman! And nothing is more attractive than confidence. You’ll do great 🙂 “
I’m 73 and have never worn full “war paint”, Jane
Had my eyebrows tattooed about 4 years ago, one of the best things I’ve ever done as colour still there so got great shaped eyebrows
I’m now a SkinBase microdermabrasion gal and have it about every 6 weeks. And between sessions have a facial. Resisted having a blue hair rinse and 7 weeks ago my silver hair took on a very discreet ash blonde hue
I look in the mirror and I’ve got more lines than Clapham Junction and more craters than ?! But I’ve got a rosy cheeks and a healthy looking skin
You’ll have no problems going “nude” and hope we’ll see you. I’m fed up seeing matchsticks on the runway and want to see real women
Thank you for all your reviews
It’s crazy really that we all put pressure on ourselves to look like models/celebs whose entire job is to look good with the world’s best at their disposal and even then they *still* get airbrushed!
Lighting, time of day, moisturiser, facial, face angle, hair all can have a “filter” effect. Some celebs have permanent makeup and “technically” claim to be showing their makeup free face. I think programmes like Big Brother, I’m A Celeb etc are good for reminding everyone that beneath the slap there are real faces. Makeup is armour – I don’t wear much but when I don’t I get asked “if i’m ok!” The exception is when I’m on holiday when somehow I look great and glowing (if i say so myself!) without makeup. – beauty sleep is so real. Baring yourself in some way in any situation does take guts and also inspires others. I hope you do do it and sure you’ll feel great!
There is always going to be someone younger and gorgeous to boot! You make the very best of what you’ve got which is very much appreciated by me. For your “naked” photo, wear a genuine smile and think of a loved one, and you’ll look wonderful (and real) x
Know just what you mean here, it’s that bit of colour that adds life to the skin. I’m 49 and can certainly recognise your comments as being true of myself. Just give a jaunty lift to the chin with a dollop of positivity, which you have in spades, and all will be well.
I have two questions which I wonder if you can help out with, I would be really grateful for your expertise and guidance please. The first is what would be a good daytime serum for normal 49 year old skin? This is such a minefield I really need help. The second is eyeshadow. My eyelids are sensitive to seemingly every eye shadow out there and this is getting worse as I get older or perhaps I’m just becoming more sensitised because I keep trying. I am wondering if there is a particular brand (s) that you may recommend? I know that I cannot tolerate mica and I think there are undoubtedly other ingredients that I cannot take but I have not been able to identify those as yet.
Thank you so much for any input you may have and the very best of luck to going ‘nude’!
Hi Anna.. okay, I’m genuinely not sure what to recommend because it could be any number of things that set off your sensitivities – I had a quick look on Etsy and it seems that there are a few mineral brands that are mica-free, so possibly investigating mineral make-up brands could be something to do. As for serum, I have loved Clarins Double Serum and also love the new serum from Su-Man skin care – it’s not cheap but I promise a little goes a very long way. x
That’s really helpful, thank you so much Anna x