Impostor Syndrome: The Curse of The Blogger

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I’ve just read the most fabulous feature by Kevan Lee, at BufferSocial (HERE) via a chance tweet from @curlywurlygirl. He has put into words what I’ve been grappling with all my blogging life. Impostor Syndrome, via the Crew Blog (HERE). It’s recognised by psychologists and applies to those of us who are not able to recognise our accomplishments; despite appearances, we’re convinced that we are undeserving of our place. We assume that everyone knows more than we do and that somehow, we’re just ‘getting away’ with what we’re doing.

There’s even a legitimate survey, the Clance Impostor Scale Survey, that gives you questions to answer to find out just how much of an imposter you think you are! Does this sound like you?

  1. I tend to remember the incidents in which I have not done my best more than those times I have done my best.
  2. I often compare my ability to those around me and think they may be more intelligent than I am.
  3. At times, I feel my success has been due to some kind of luck.

I’m guessing that at various points, those of us with a blog have had these thoughts. The challenges, the competitiveness, the constant requirement for new and varied content, the unending feeling that everyone is doing bigger, better and more brilliantly than you – they’re all familiar feelings to bloggers. For some, it’s the fuel that lights their blogs and keeps them sparking amazing content, for others it’s a weight around their necks. For me, it’s a bit of both.

Both Jen at BeautyJunkieLondon (HERE) and Hayley at LBQ.com (HERE) have both hit the nail on the head with their predictions and summaries of the current state of play in beauty blogging. They’re words to listen to and both are a highly recommended read.

I think where Impost0r Syndrome really hits hard is when you’re earning money from your blog. It’s a constant justification of why what you’re doing has a value. You have to justify to readers (or feel that you have to) that you can still have an honest opinion, or give information on products (clearly marked as sponsored, obviously), without detracting from your integrity as a blogger. Feeling guilty about sponsored posts is a ‘thing’ but I don’t think there’s a psychology test for it yet ;-).

Justifying, too, to PRs and brands, why they may have to pay for content to appear on your site also chips away at your blog confidence. Some PRs and brands get it – they really do. They know that to reach our entirely beauty relevant, completely engaged and beauty hungry audiences, sometimes there has to be money on the table. We can’t maintain, never mind build, our strong relationships with readers on thin air. I’m always completely open that, where appropriate, BBB does take sponsored posts. Most bloggers are completely open about it. I think I have the trust of my readers, enough, that they’ll understand, and also know that the opinion expressed cannot be bought. It’s the space that’s being bought.

I had a situation before Christmas that is a prime example of how Impostor Syndrome can creep up on you. A brand (a big one) wanted to use words of praise that I’d used on my blog in their consumer outreach emails, and across all their social media channels. I said that social media channels was fine, because it’s a continuation of the social media circle, but that to use my words as a sales tool would need to be paid for. You would think I had asked to float their firstborn down a river. I asked, “If my words have no value, why do you want them to help you sell product?”  It’s not resolved and they didn’t pay.

This is not an uncommon situation and a perfect example of PRs assuming you’re sitting in your bedroom faffing about with lipstick all day without a care in the world or a mortgage to pay. Making money, for everyday jobbing bloggers, isn’t an easy thing, and constantly justifying why what you do has any value at all is perfect breeding ground for Impostor Syndrome.

But before this descends into all doom and gloom, Jen and Hayley’s predictions for the year ahead present challenges that I’m actually looking forward to. You have to head into them with a lion’s roar, not a mouse’s squeak, otherwise that bloody Impostor will have won the day.

 

 


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11 responses to “Impostor Syndrome: The Curse of The Blogger”

  1. This is really interesting! It never ceases to amaze me what some PR think they can get away with. Your stories often baffle me! At the end of the day, it’s definitely going to be them that loses out in the long wrong! You can only do what you feel is right. If a company wants to do something that crosses your lines, then you have every right to point it out! I’m not even speaking from experience, to me it just makes logical, common sense!

    I too enjoyed Hayley’s predictions for the year! I hope it’s truly as exciting as it sounds!

    Stephanie
    http://missstephanieusher.blogspot.co.uk/
    http://www.bloglovin.com/blog/3436251
    xxxx

    1. *long run not wrong!

  2. This post is the story of my life. Not just for my blog (which is fairly new), but it was a big problem during my time at university. I was convinced that I had to over-work myself because I wasn’t as god as everyone else, and when I got my results saying I had a Distinction I thought someone would ring me up and say that there’d been a terrible mistake and that I’d failed the course.

    Anyway, thank you for posting this. I feel much better knowing that other people go through Impostor Syndrome, and the other articles about blogging in 2015 are very good reads.

  3. Oh my! That has been me since my teens!

    I don’t want to spill my troubles here, but that about summarizes how I have felt in various settings like university, work etc. The downside, as you point out, is that you risk being taken advantage of because you don’t value yourself as you should!

    Great and inspiring post. Off to read the predictions 😉

  4. Imposter syndrome seems to stay with me. It sometimes looks like a lack of ego from the outside but on the inside it can really erode confidence.

    clementinebuttercup.blogspot.co.uk

  5. Olivia

    Funny, I was just thinking this just this morning. I blog but is what I have blogged for the past 5 years worth anything? After the plagiarism by the vlogger who still has no clue (even a movie gives credit to a book), I felt my blogging was just a piece of junk and people can take what they want from me. Granted, there isn’t much to take because I support that blog monetarily with a minimal budget and that moment of plagiarism did bring up all the feelings of becoming unworthy in this blogosphere because I don’t YouTube and don’t get the attention of the majority of brands out there.

    Then, I thought about the demographics of most of those vloggers which are aimed at 9-18 year olds (<—LOL), even though they think they are talking to an audience close to their age. These vloggers remind me of the cigarette commercials used to influence a child's mind to remember the brand when they turned into adulthood. I am not equating beauty products to cigarettes but I do see the influence on the young crowd. When I went to high school, I never thought of stealing a MAC lipgloss from someone's purse. Then again, there was no MAC and makeup really had no status symbol attached to it.

    Sorry, I didn't mean to get off topic but, yes, I do feel every other beauty blogger does better than me. I do feel they have more stuff to write. I do wish I could do better and keep an audience interested. But in the end, unlike most beauty bloggers, I don't make money off my blog and that is one pressure I don't have. I just think of it as a schooling, trying to understand what people will read and not read. Since blogging is pretty new in the sense of PR for brands, I am learning what works on my blog and what doesn't. And, if I turn pro, I will have the confidence to blog better and feel less of an imposter. At least, I hope!!

    Gosh Jane, I didn't mean to write so much. It is okay to edit and/or delete this. 😐

  6. This resonates with me so much. I’m constantly feeling like a cheat and that other people have sites so much better than my own. I think we’re all in the same boat and all feel the same way, no matter our achievements!

    (And thanks for the mention you star!) xx

  7. Christine

    Great blog post Jane! I think the Imposter syndrome applies to all kind of trades and especially women suffer from it. We had a session recently through my work about it and it was a great and interesting time. I have recognised myself in there a few times, especially the comparing your intelligence and standing to others around you

    Men usually don’t suffer from it as much. After the session I have made the promise to myself to be more self assured and stand up for myself more.
    Luckily this also resulted in a payrise which made me happy.

    So I say…go for it..stand up and make yourself heard and trust that you got to where you are not just because of a mistake but for a really good reason: Hard work and dedication.

  8. Great post Jane, bet there are lots of bloggers nodding along in agreement to this one! So much guess work involved in what we do too really ads to the whole thing. Thanks also for the mention.

  9. Laura

    Like you, Imposter Syndrome can affect anyone and more especially I think those that work from home and are trying to sell their service over and above others. It’s difficult out there. But you write a wonderful blog, I look forward to it every day and have told lots of people about it too. So keep going, and if they don’t want to pay, well bully to them. You just keep doing what you’re doing!

    1. Jane

      thank you Laura!

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